Getting the Best from your Enema

by RJM

I love enemas! But that wasn’t always the case. As a kid I found them painful and embarrassing. Enemas were fairly common in our home, and they usually contained a more than sufficient quantity of a soapflake product called ‘DUZ’ (some of you older readers may remember its red box and the jingle, “D-U-Z does everything!”) I suffered with the cramps these enemas caused, but, whenever the cramps were not too severe, I noticed another feeling – strange and tantalizing – that made me want to investigate on my own. About age five I began to insert the eraser-end of pencils up my rectum; this was interesting but did not give me that strange feeling which I, at that age, somehow couldn’t describe but wanted so much. It’s true: My history with enemas doesn’t differ very much from many others I (and others) have read.

I had to wait until I was a teenager to finally give myself an enema. Waiting until no one was home, I went to the bathroom and tried it, using both the enema and douche nozzles. There it was, that feeling that I had missed so much and could not get with regular masturbation. Warm water worked best, and plain water was just fine – no need to add soap.

I grew up, got a good education, got married, got divorced (not because of enemas), and then, when I was finally alone, I was able to really explore my fantasy. I found that enemas can range from agonizingly horrible (as I already knew from my childhood) to sexually exciting, pleasantly relaxing, and, at the other end of the spectrum (using tepid water), to very boring. It became apparent that just the right combination of flow and water temperature were needed, and that, as the water in the bag began to cool, the flow had to be increased to keep this exciting and pleasant balance.

With a degree in psychology, there was a great deal to be studied in the area of sexuality – both normal and abnormal. One of our required texts discussed male vs. female masturbation, with enemas being mentioned only in regard to female masturbation. Funny, I thought. We also had to study the DSM-IV, i.e., The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition, in our abnormal psych courses. This thick soft-covered work, published by the American Psychiatric Association, mentions klismaphilia (attraction to enemas) in Section 302.9 “Paraphilia Not Otherwise Specified” (p. 532). This is a very brief paragraph containing no explanation of any of these disorders, and puts attraction to enemas in some pretty bad company – attraction to feces (coprophilia), urine (urophilia), corpses (necrophilia), sex with animals (zoophilia), among others. In our classes, however, we learned that the DSM could be strongly affected by changes in social behaviors and attitudes, and probably the most telling example of this has been its position on homosexuality. In the DSM-II, homosexuality was a mental disorder; in the DSM-III it was a mental disorder only if it caused psychological suffering; but in the DSM-IV there is no mention of homosexuality as a mental disorder. Things can change over time.

I learned later that the originator of the term klismaphilia was a term created by Dr. Joanne Denko, a psychiatrist in Rocky River, Ohio, near Cleveland. I read a few of the papers she had written in which she described some of the cases of the would-be disorder she had treated. It appeared to me that a.) no cure seems to exist for it; and b.) her patients were embarrassed by it but did not particularly want to be cured of it. Here, as in the DSM-III definition of homosexuality as a possible mental disorder, there was shame and embarrassment, but the practice of it felt too good to stop! I kept wondering what Dr. Denko truly felt about enema-related sexuality. The vocabulary and phrasing in her articles seemed to indicate that her training was in the Psychodynamic School, which originated with Sigmund Freud and still uses many of his ideas, concepts and opinions. She seemed in her wording to distance herself from the condition, which might have meant that she honestly found it to be freakish and possibly repelling, OR that she recognized the sexual attraction of it and was attempting to hide her true feelings. I felt like writing her a letter encouraging her to try some enema-sex for herself – in the name of good scientific practice – if she truly had no personal experience with it, but I never wrote that letter.

We now come to the technical portion of this paper – suggestions for improving the quality of your enemas. In every enema that you take, there are a number of different things that can be varied and are worth the effort of safe experimentation. On the subject of safety, remember always to be gentle with yourself and others. I have an enemate, who, referring to the softness of my technique, has said on several occasions that she wished I were her gynalcologist (hers had been very rough)! Many common things in life can cause injury – athletic activities, cooking, crossing the street, to name a few – and a little care can usually prevent injuries from happening. On the other hand, if enemas are to be taken for reasons other than therapeutic purposes, something pleasant and/or exciting must be felt. You should be able to feel the water running in, and to be sexually exciting, it may have to make you squirm a little! I call this the ‘squirm factor’.

I recommend having a variety of nozzles, different thicknesses, some with a front hole, others with side holes (possibly staggered), as your choice of nozzle (nozzle-tov!) can often change with your mood. But even when dealing with a single nozzle, you may find that different depths have different effects, and that some depths do nothing for you at all (‘dead zones’). There are various cylindrical objects to be found, preferably ¼ to ½ inch in diameter, hollow or easily hollowed, which might serve as a nozzle of your own design, making sure, of course, that sharp points, edges or burrs are carefully removed. If it is long, it should be flexible. A colon tube can be a very fine accessory, and you might find in using one that you have a couple of sexually VERY stimulating points deep inside of you – at depths of 9 inches and 15 inches, for example. A steady flow of water can become boring after even a few minutes, and a change of nozzle depth can renew the pleasant feeling.

Can you find an old wooden fork-type clothes-pin? Although we now have plastic hose clamps which allow for different degrees of squeeze on the hose (these did not exist when I was a kid, so the water always came in at full speed – aaagh!), you may very well find that these gradations are just not fine enough. But with the old clothes-pin and possibly a couple of turns of adhesive tape at one spot on the hose, you will have very high degree of control over your flow. Even if the water in the bag/container is really hot, the pin will slow the flow such that it will be comfortably warm at the nozzle. You’ll notice the difference in temperature and flow if you move the pin even 1/32 of an inch. Highly recommended!

The Sims position recommended for clinical use (lying on the left side, left leg drawn up) is not required for recreational purposes. Try a variety of positions, and chances are that you’ll find one that you like best. For me, it’s on my back or sometimes 45° to the right. Lying down, you may actually feel that you’re moving forward due to the water running in (Newton’s Third Law), and the partial right tilt can produce a wonderful waterfall-like effect as the water runs down the tranverse colon. But a slow enema will take a while, so you may want you use a few different positions during the procedure. Actually, an enema is much more of a colonic or visceral experience than an anal experience, with the water circulating about 7/8 of the way around your abdomen. And speaking of that feeling of forward motion, why do people go on rides at amusement parks? Those are visceral experiences; but with a really skillfully performed enema you can rival the effects of many good amusement park rides!

On the subject of slow enemas, it’s very possible that you’ll get more sexual stimulation from a slow one than a fast one. If the flow is slow enough, the water will trickle in, and, being erratic, will probably be more stimulating. And, of course, a slow flow means you’ll have more time to enjoy the experience.

Most rectumational enema users have found that pinching the hose with their fingers (even slightly) can be exciting. You can do it slowly and regularly, causing a wave-type experience, or sharply and erratically – the latter best done by your enemate so that you won’t know what to expect!

If you choose to take your enemas in a bedroom (as I do), you may want to consider some sensory deprivation. At night or in an otherwise quiet darkened room, possibly with a small multicolored night light and some soft music (or without these), it may be easier to mentally focus on the pleasures of the water going in, up and around inside of you, enhancing the intensity of the experience.

The area in which I have had the least success has been in adding ingredients to the water. I do add small amounts of soap once in a while, but it doesn’t take much to make me wish I hadn’t done it. Some years ago a friend of mine gave me a bottle of Tequila he had brought back from Mexico. I tried drinking it, but I hated it. You can guess the rest: I used small amounts of it for enemas, making me slightly drunk on a few occasions. One of my more recent experiments has been with Epsom salts, which, although surprisingly mild, produced a very thorough cleanout. Epsom salts, chemically speaking, is magnesium sulphate, and magnesium is a laxative. In Berlin, however, I bought a very interesting book, Klistier Atlas (1989, Odörfer-Verlags-GmbH, Röthenbach; 157 pages, 168 photos). In addition to the many chapters on enema history and applications, there was also a chapter containing 30 recipes for various health problems and health improvement. The many spices and herbs mentioned included anise, fennel, basil, stinging nettle, camomile, eucalyptus, peppermint, dandelion, lavender, lime, orange, juniper, black tea, eggs, red wine, sage, rosemary, thyme (but no parsley!), and many other ingredients I have never heard of, e.g., ysop. I tried a number of these recipes, but without benefit. This may have been my fault, as I did not use fresh leaves, roots and berries as directed; instead, I picked up what I could find from the condiments-section of the supermarket.

Can a male experience a repeatable female-type orgasm? Or can a female have an enema-generated orgasm that far exceeds anything she has ever had before? No guarantee, but if you look at a book on Chinese medicine or acupuncture you will probably find many references to the Dantian point, a spot about 1½ inches below the navel which is considered to be the primary junction point for the acupuncture meridians. One of our required psychology texts describes the female orgasm as typically consisting of six to eight contractions, although it is repeatable. It may be that my Dantian point has become oversensitized through too much stroking (upward toward the navel), but I, as a male, in conjunction with the water flowing in, often experience several dozen ecstatic contractions, repeatable as often as desired; and on one occasion a single series of contractions exceeded two hundred, leaving me totally exhausted! Try it and see if it works for you, and even if it doesn’t, keep stroking that point! (If it does work for you, check with your physician to insure that your heart is in good condition.) Men can also experience extremely wild enema-generated male orgasms, usually triggered by a sudden increase in water flow; but, of course, once you’ve ejaculated, it’s done, and you’ll have to wait for the duration of your refractory period (which gets longer and longer with age) before you can have another one.

You’re not getting enough from your old red bag and you wish you had a four-quart syringe? Even if you’re not mechanically inclined (and I’m certainly not), it’s easy enough to build one. There are plenty of one-gallon clear plastic cannisters to be found in supermarkets and hardware stores, whether they’re just filled with water or something more dangerous (like antifreeze). Assuming you have or you’ve found such a cannister and it has been previously filled with a toxic substance, it can still be used if you wash it many times over with detergent (a dozen times would be good); leave it for a day or two, then repeat the procedure. There should be absolutely no trace of the smell of the original substance remaining! (I’m really serious about this; be very, very thorough!) Paint remover is good for removing the labels and any remaining glue from the cannister surface, leaving it bright and transparent.

Let’s say you’ve chosen a straight-sided cannister with a rectangular (not square) bottom (my choice): You’ll need to find a connector for attaching your hose. Fortunately I had one from the bottom of an old worn-out bag, but a spare sawed-off ¼-inch enema nozzle will also do the trick. Now a hole must be bored in the bottom of the cannister diagonally opposite from the handle. The reason for this is to have the cannister tilt toward the hose when it is suspended. No special tools are required; the cannister is soft plastic, and a scissor blade will do the job very well. Start the hole with the point of the blade, then widen the hole by turning the blade continually in a circular motion, checking frequently to if it is now just big enough for your connecting piece to go in. Once it is big enough, Crazy Glue (or equivalent) will provide a perfectly adequate seal, but make sure the flange of your connector is pressed firmly against the bottom of the cannister until the glue is dry. A thick piece of cord (tied with a square knot) can then be looped under the handle for use as a hanger. My hanger was an old pear-shaped shower curtain hook, but after looping it under the handle I had to solder the hook ends together. A gallon of water, after all, weighs eight pounds, and you don’t want your hanger coming undone! One more detail: If you screw the cap on tightly after filling the cannister, a partial vacuum is created as the water drains out, causing the cannister to partially collapse. To prevent this, all you need to do is make a tiny needle-hole up near the handle. If the cannister ever falls over for any reason, only a few drops of water will ever come out of such a small hole.

Having done everything described above, the only remaining items are those required for any type of fountain syringe: You’ll need to find or provide a fixture for hanging the cannister; attach your hose, clamp and nozzle, and you’re all set. I’m fortunate – my bedroom is directly under the slanted roof of the house, and all I needed was a little brass hook screwed into the ceiling four feet over the bed. A slow one-gallon enema (using the old clothes-pin described earlier) can provide up to two hours of pleasure. As more and more water runs out of the cannister, the remaining water will cool, and, with your clothes-pin, you’ll gradually decrease the pressure on the hose to maintain the pleasure of the experience. With very little water left, you may find that you need to let it flow at full speed. Fill your colon as you wish, but stop if it becomes painful, and be very careful with your water temperature, which if too hot can cause permanent injury or even death. The author takes no responsibility for improper use of your equipment. I have kept my old enema bag and still use it occasionally (nostalgia, perhaps), but in recent years I’ve found the cannister much more to my liking.

As mentioned earlier with the changes in the DSM, someday (possibly soon) enemas may become a generally accepted part of the bedroom equipment and very much appreciated. Che syringe, syringe… But until then, you and I already know what it’s about. All the best to you; play safely and enjoy!

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